parent needs to know about Moral Values by Anitha
"There are little eyes upon you
and they're watching night and day.
There are little ears that quickly take in every word you say.
There are little hands all eager to do everything you do.
And a little child who's dreaming of the day he'll be like you."
to children in a fast paced world, it is easy for moral values to get lost in
translation. If we, as primary caregivers of our children do not believe that moral
values are as important as being competitive, then we may be headed for utter
has been with MLZS since many years has found this trend deeply disturbing. She
did some soul searching and figured out a way to instill important values in
children at school. Here are
“Values and beliefs are our way of life. They guide us to differentiate
between good and bad even in adverse situations. Ironically, these values and
beliefs are not mandatory for human survival.
There are two
aspects to these core values that we should look into –
- Knowledge on various core values i.e., I know
- To follow the path of righteousness based on
these values i.e., I follow
scenario, there is a gap between ‘what I know’ about values and with what
intensity do ‘I follow’ them.
We all know
the basic difference between right and wrong. But how many times are we able to
follow through with right deeds, even when it is contrary to our immediate
every educated individual has a strong awareness on what is right. But some
situations demand actions that need deviation from the core values. A simple
example is the bribe given when jumping a signal or for the failure to produce
a licence on the road when asked for. What matters more at that point of time
is to overcome the situation than the consequences of the wrong action done.
period of time, values are compromised and escape routes are used whenever such
situations occur in life. Hence the gap between what ‘I know’ and what ‘I
follow’ widens. Self-realization occurs only when the consequences of the
actions threaten the very existence of the individual. For example, all smokers
know that smoking is injurious to health. But they let go off the habit only
when a serious health hazard occurs in their lives. Their decision to quit the
habit and stick to it then enters their core belief system. In most cases,
adults learn to follow the values and adhere to their core beliefs only through
unpleasant experiences. “
How schools like MLZS have evolved
to accommodate the growing need for moral values
believed that the course of one’s adult life depends on what they learn in the
childhood. Till a decade ago, schools were largely academic oriented. It was
believed that students who excelled in academics possessed and exhibited high
values. Hence focus was given only to academic performance. Sadly, this belief
did not hold true in many cases. Today the educationists have realised the gap
between ‘I know’ and ‘I follow’ and are determined to imbibe core values in
childhood stage blended with academics. “
“It has been
found that childhood and adolescence are stages when the children are very
idealistic. They believe that they live in an ideal world. We, as teachers and
parents need to take advantage of this period to inculcate values in them.
Children are visual, auditory and kinaesthetic learners. When academic subjects
are taught, learning happens through text books, thumb rules to be followed,
through logical reasoning and so on. But on the other hand, values need to be
taken to children through –“
- Case studies – lives of leaders who achieved
greatness by following values
- By showing motivational videos where values are
exhibited by individuals
- Demonstration of values by teachers in the form
of role plays.
- Strong emphasis on outcomes when values are
- Giving them real life situations where they have
to think and express their views based on the values that they know.
- Constantly reminding them that it is important to
be a better individual first and then a better professional in life.
parents ensure these values take root in a young learners mind?
education should be consistent and repetitive in nature since they should take
the form of roots in the minds of children. Like Mahatma Gandhi has rightly
said “Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your
words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become
your values. Your values become your destiny.”
how do you test if a child has inculcated these values?
excellence can be measured through scores, grades and ranks and children are
motivated to perform since their external environment is highly competitive. As
for values, the measuring scale is only peace of mind, in other words, internal
happiness that is achieved by following the core values. As mentors, constant
encouragement and motivation are very critical in imparting values to children.
Our mission will be held successful only when every student realises that “If I
don’t value the values, I have no value”. Our vision is to create leaders of 21st
century who will be known for their values and not only by their educational
Anitha Shankar is the Co-ordinator of Grade I. She takes English for Grade
Anitha writes about herself. “Simple in actions and in thoughts, you return to the source of being.’ This defines me and I feel proud that I share this quality with Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa. I am in this noble profession of developing future leaders for the past five years and I have been associated with Mount Litera Zee school for the last two years.
Throughout my eventful life, one thing that has been constant is ‘change’. Hence my learning has been not to be afraid of change. I may have lost something good but I have always gained something
better every time. “