your kids about Good Touch and Bad Touch is the single most important item in
any mother’s to-do list today. Only a mother will be able to explain to her
child that difference between a Good Touch and a Bad Touch without letting the
child feel that the world is an unsafe place.
decided to speak to a few mothers (just like you) and ask them how they teach
their children (ranging from 18 months to 10 years) about this difficult
subject. Let’s hear what they have to say….
Teaching them what each part of the
body is called. Anitha,
mother to 18 month old Suriya says that as soon as Suriya grew curious about
his body during bath time, she taught him the correct names for his anatomy.
She says, “I really think it helps him to have knowledge incase he ever wants
to tell me about anything”.
Give them ownership of their body. From an early age Sarveen started
telling her daughter (now aged 3 years) that her body is her own and certain
parts are private that nobody has a right to touch. In fact even when it is
something like holding hands or hugging, Sarveen allows her daughter to have
the right to say NO if she doesn’t want to.
Keep conversation around private
parts light and easy.
If children feel that it is taboo to speak about their private parts, they may
never open up to you in case they want to tell you something. Komal, mother to
4.5 year old Sanand has always kept conversation light and easy. Just as one
would be if one was talking about their hands or fingers.
Think beyond the swim suit rule. Lisa, a child psychologist, was
taught about the swim suit rule when she was young. The rule is whatever part
of body is covered by the swim suit is private and no one should be seeing or
touching that area. Now a mother to 2 and 6 year olds, Lisa says,” Most
criminals have constant contact with the children and develop a relationship
with them over time. Sexual molestation begins by rubbing backs, stroking the
hair of children and then move onto sensitive areas so there is no warning.
Instead the child should be taught to repel or complain against any touch that
makes him/her uncomfortable.”
finally, Don’t force affection. If
your child doesn’t want to give a hug, don’t coerce him/her into it. A loving
hug from an adult isn’t a bad thing at all. But it should definitely not be